Dating With Herpes or an STD in New York
New York's dating pool is large enough that finding people who take disclosure and privacy seriously is realistic, whether you're using a platform built for this community or navigating a mainstream app. This page rounds up the kind of local resources worth knowing about if you're dating in NYC after a diagnosis.
Local Support
In-person and virtual support groups exist across the city for people living with herpes, HIV, and other STDs. If you're newly diagnosed, a local group is often more useful than anything a dating app can offer - it's a place to talk through disclosure, dating anxiety, and treatment questions with people who've been through it.
- Ask your healthcare provider or a local sexual health clinic for current support group referrals - group schedules and facilitators change often enough that we don't list specific ones here.
- Planned Parenthood and NYC Health + Hospitals sexual health clinics are a reliable starting point for both medical care and referrals to community resources.
Dating Locally
- Platforms built specifically for STD and herpes dating tend to have a meaningful user base in a city the size of New York - see our Reviews section for platform-specific breakdowns.
- If you're dating on a mainstream app, New York's size makes it easier to be selective about who you disclose to and when, without feeling like you're limiting your options.
Not Medical Advice
Nothing on this page is medical advice. For diagnosis, treatment, or questions about your health, talk to a licensed healthcare provider.